01 Can hypnosis help me with my school work and test preparation?
As a hypnotist, I have studied linguistics, methods for relaxation and focus, and skills that were developed to help you learn faster. When taking IELTS and TOEFL, you must combine test preparation skills with English skills. I can help because I am familiar with both.
An example of this is practicing skills for relaxation. A common definition for hypnosis is focused deep relaxation. Another word used to describe this same state of consciousness is a trance state. We all experience trance states throughout our day. Because of my training, I am able to utilize this naturally occurring state both during our meetings and by offering other resources.
Many of my students who are not native English speakers experience a variety of hypnotic states during calls as I repeat ideas and help them relax. One way to determine if you have experienced this is ask yourself this question. “Are there certain memories that come back to me that are vivid after I spoke with Rick?”
To learn more, ask me.
02 How does hypnosis work? What are the different types of hypnosis?
These 2 questions are listed together because they are so similar.
Hypnosis is a state of deep relaxation and focus. There are 4 common forms of hypnosis. We also call this a trance state.
First Form. Throughout the day you go in and out of trance states. An example is while you are riding in a vehicle, such as the family car. Another example is when you are riding in a bus. If you sit there long enough, you nod off to sleep.
Second Form. While listening to a hypnosis or guided meditation like the ones we offer on this site or Youtube. You may or may not fall asleep, but as you listen to ambient (binaural) music that helps your mind relax, the words of encouragement offer your unconscious mind suggestions that can have a therapeutic affect on your mind and body.
Most (perhaps all) people I speak to who listen to these are disappointed by their lack of long term affects and positive change. This is why we limit how many of these we offer. You are welcome to listen to these tracks and let us know if they were helpful, but typically we recommend these to clients we are working with.
So what really works? Third Form and Forth Form.
We offer these on our website because we specialize them to your needs. The specialization happens when you fill out your profile, which is coming soon. At the end of the profile page, you will notice recommendations links of hypnosis recordings to listen to. We do not expect these recordings to bring significant lasting change. But the recordings often help our clients to get comfortable with our voices and the environment of hypnosis.
Third Form. You meet with a hypnotist and talk about your concerns with him. After the discussion is over, he begins by guiding you into a state of deep relaxation and focus, a trance state. This includes asking you to relax, to breath deeply in and out, and so on. This method is more effective than the Second Form because the hypnotist knows about your presenting problem.
The presenting problem is simply why you think or feel you need a hypnotist.
While you sit and listen, may even fall asleep. However, you typically do not interact with the hypnotist by answer questions. When the hypnotist is finished, which normally takes 20 to 30 minutes, you receive a recording of the session. This recording is made for you and only you because the hypnotist will discuss change related to your specific circumstance. Most clients says they do experienc change from this process.
If you notice your recording is more metaphoric than literal, there are a few reasons for this. The most common is the hypnotist realizes your core issue is different from what you told the hypnotist during the initial interview.
Forth Form. This is similar to the Third Form. The big difference is you interact during the guided session. The process is simple: You meet with a trained professional who is able to guide you. I do this regularly with clients. I offer similar scripts to what you heard during the second and third form.
It begins with an opening, or induction, such as deep breathing instructions and other tips to help you relax and focus. The big difference is I guide you to special places by asking questions that you speak answers to. It is an interactive experience and we often call a Deep Trance State. I prefer this method.
Coming soon: We are planning contests for people who have signed up.
Our contests offer the Third and Forth Form. One of our goals is to offer the Forth Form of hypnosis at discounted rates. Our members love these services because they are able to experience life changing results.
If someone offers you a free recording without first guiding you, you probably will not find the answers and life changes you are looking for.
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03 I have heard people say “I am a slow learner? Can your methods help me learn faster?”
We often hear students describe themselves as slow or unmotivated learners. In most cases, students struggle because they are trying to learn skills that they are practicing wrong or that do not work for them.
The fact is I do not have slow students. Once I determine their method of learning, I teach them based on that.
Let’s get specific. I have had students struggle for 1 to 2 years (perhaps longer) to learn IELTS speaking. After I do an assessment with a student and they learn what they are doing wrong, their speaking band 5.5 often jumps to a band 6 in about 15 days. This is especially true with speaking and writing scores.
In fact, most Chinese students score a half a band (0.5) lower than they should because they are using skills that are not working for them. Let me repeat that. Most Chinese students should be scoring a half a band higher anyway.
An example of a skill is note taking. When a student learns how and when (and when not ) to take notes, his or her scores sees improvement rather quickly.
Here is a fun allegory: Imagine you are walking up a mountain carrying your best friend on your back. You are carrying your best friend on your back because you were told by people you trust, such as parents, teachers, and maybe a religious leader, “if you really love your best friend, you will carry them because they need you.” One day you meet up with a wise man and he asks you, “Why are you carrying your friend on your back?” You respond to the man as though the question is stupid, “What other option do I have?” As you ask this question, you feel guilty because the thought comes “Why am I daring to question this?”
The wise man responds with a big smile, “Let her walk by herself. Her body is young and strong.” You stand for a while looking at your friend wondering if asking her to get off your back will seem insulting or painful. The last thing you want to do is hurt anyone’s feelings. Something else happens while you stand there. You realize how tired you are. Your hands, your back, and your legs are all crying for relief. Against your better judgement while the wise man is still staring at you, you prepare to ask your friend to climb off your back. Guilt continues to come, and then something wonderful happens. She kisses you on your check and jumps off of your back.
What happens next is even more wonderful. She makes a comment that you never considered. “I can see why people told us this in the beginning, after all, I did have an injured leg. But I feel fine. I love you. You were always there for me, but it is time for me to help you now.”
Instead of letting you carry her, she playfully changes her position to a romantic stance as she grabs you by your hand. A new found confidences rushes over you. You look at the wise man and say “thank you, thank you, thank you,” however, you don’t know what you are more thankful for: a break from carrying the person you love or the fact that your relationship has gone from burden to partner and lover.
If you felt happy and relaxed when you read it, then 2 things happened. You experienced the a Form of trance state. You gave your unconscious permission to let go of one or more beliefs that were stopping you from achieving your goals.
Contact me. It is my job to help you change those old beliefs that are stopping you from achieving your goals.
04 Why do you often tells stories and ask stupid questions?
Because the more you listen to stories and words of encouragement in English, the faster you will learn. Also, your unconscious mind learns differently that your conscious. Allegories allow your unconscious mind to make positive changes fast. Since your unconscious mind is the part of you that is controlling most of your decisions, it makes sense that I work with that part of you.
05 Does your approach to education work at any age?
Yes, I work with students from ages 5 and up.
06 When you speak to my unconscious, why does it sound like you are speaking to a child?
Your core beliefs that are impacting you today were typically formed before you turned 10 years old. Many clients experience memories when they were in the womb or just after being born.
Your unconscious is extremely powerful (it controls 90% of your life), but I does not have the power of reason. It accepts the suggestions and commands your conscious mind gives it, and tries to serve your highest interests the best that it can.
Since all of our basic needs can be discussed at the language ability of a child, below the age of 7, complex language structures are not needed.
07 What is the difference between hypnotherapy and hypnosis?
Not much. In some countries, if you have the word therapy or therapist in your professional title, it is illegal, unless you qualify by their legal definition.
I call myself a life coach and consulting hypnotist because the countries where I live and work, such as the United States and China, there are no laws against these titles.
08 What is an anchor?
An anchor is any feeling, sound, noise, or other internal or external stimuli that triggers your conscious or unconscious mind. An example of this is hearing your mobile phone beep while you are driving. Even if you are driving in rainy weather and it would be arguably dangerous to look and respond to the beep, you do so anyway.
09 What is the difference between the conscious and unconscious mind?
The conscious mind controls the activities you do when you are aware of a particular behavior. An example is looking at your watch to check the time or introducing yourself to someone by speaking your name.
The unconscious is everything else. An example is riding a bike after you have learned each step needed: putting your hands on the handlebar grips, sitting on the seat, and then placing your feet on the peddles. When you first learn this skill, each action your bodies does, you are aware of. Once you become comfortable and the unconscious learns these automatic motor skills, the 3 actions, and many others, become unconscious behaviors.
10 Can you explain the rules of waiting for a period of months before starting new relationships while in therapy?
These rules vary from person to person.
Rule 1: When you are getting going through hypnsis, it is better to stay away from emotionally charged situations, such as sexual and romantic relationships, because these relationships often impact the healing process in a negative way.
These rules apply mostly to childhood behaviors and beliefs, which formed before age 10.
Here is a list of questions you can ask yourself to see if you are in a potentially unhealthy relationship. These questions require that the relationship has a history of sex coupled with fear of or evidence of emotional and / or physical / sexual abuse.
A. During the months of hypnosis you may find yourself drawn back to the person. When you have encounters, do you feel a strong need to get back with them and a need to have sex with them? Do you often tell yourself, I have no other choice. This is who I want to be with?
The lack of wanting a break from the relationship is a good indicator that something needs healing.
B. If you are attempting to start the relationship over, does he (or she) focus on getting back into sex, or setting healthy boundaries?
Note: You and your partner cannot determine what is and is not a healthy boundary. You will need a trained professional who specializes in helping you to determine these boundaries.
An example of a healthy boundary is choosing to step away from sex for at least 2 months or longer. You must determine these timelines with your coach.
Rule 2: Are you learning how to effectively collapse anchors in your life and giving yourself time to determine if the anchors (behavioral changes) are developing into unconscious healthy behavior patterns.
The typical timeline for this is anywhere from 2 months to 6 months (or more). The focus, however, is not how many months, but when you feel and see yourself making better choices.
Rule 3: One important step towards a healthier lifestyle is having a support system of friends who understand what physical, emotional, and mental boundaries are.
One example of this is if you are dating someone new. How aware are they of your boundaries and do they respect them?
If you have recently (in the past year) left a relationship where sex was a big part of it, getting back into the same relationship often has a very strong sexual anchor. If so, see if you can set a time line of how long you can “Say no.”
Ask your coach more about this.
May 1 2021